Learn what is important to you during the holidays

It’s that time of year my friends, and it’s a bit like marmite. Some people love the Christmas holiday season, and some most certainly do not. I probably lie somewhere in between those two spectrums, appreciating the holiday for the good it can bring whilst trying to be aware of its negative parts.

But nothing is ever black or white, as every thing in our society can’t be easily defined as positive or negative, there’s always too many variables.I have both friends and family members who are very much against this season of

I have both friends and family members who are very much against this season of year, and the points they give for being so generally have merit. But what I try to offer to them, and offer to you now, is that we can make choices about what activities we do and do not participate in as long as our intention is to seek out the positive. If instead we are focusing purely on the negative of the season, wouldn’t that lead to simply a lower overall level of wellbeing?To some, the consumeristic nature of the season may be considered a negative. As we are often advertised to heavily during this season to prove to our loved ones just how much we love them by giving them more and more expensive gifts. But gift giving shouldn’t be about the gift itself, it should always be about the intention — right?

To some, the consumeristic nature of the season may be considered a negative. As we are often advertised to heavily during this season to prove to our loved ones just how much we love them by giving them more and more expensive gifts. But gift giving shouldn’t be about the gift itself, it should always be about the intention — right?Gift giving can be a beneficial tool in building bonds with those around us, but it has become confused with spending lots of money to try and make people happy and these are two very different things. We have many other gifts at our disposal: Our time and energy, our listening and support, and memories or experiences. This is all our loved ones want from us, to care wholeheartedly — and a gift with a hefty price tag doesn’t necessarily say that message.

Gift giving can be a beneficial tool in building bonds with those around us, but it has become confused with spending lots of money to try and make people happy and these are two very different things. We have many other gifts at our disposal: Our time and energy, our listening and support, and memories or experiences. This is all our loved ones want from us, to care wholeheartedly — and a gift with a hefty price tag doesn’t necessarily say that message.So perhaps obsessive gift giving isn’t the answer. So what is? You may need to think deeply to discover what the importance of this season is to you.

So perhaps obsessive gift giving isn’t the answer. So what is? You may need to think deeply to discover what the importance of this season is to you.I know that for me personally reminiscing with old friends and getting my entire family in one location to enjoy that atmosphere is of real importance. Ever since I was a child, the most exciting part was to be around my entire family even for just half a day and that has continued with me into adulthood.

I know that for me personally reminiscing with old friends and getting my entire family in one location to enjoy that atmosphere is of real importance. Ever since I was a child, the most exciting part was to be around my entire family even for just half a day and that has continued with me into adulthood.The things that are not so important about the season to me is the cultural pressure to ‘make it a great day for everyone’, as well as the consumerism pressure to show how much you love someone through buying them a thing. I’m sure for a lot of people this is true too, but still we often find ourselves trapped in this cycle of pressure, overworking, spending, broke.

The things that are not so important about the season to me is the cultural pressure to ‘make it a great day for everyone’, as well as the consumerism pressure to show how much you love someone through buying them a thing. I’m sure for a lot of people this is true too, but still we often find ourselves trapped in this cycle of pressure, overworking, spending, broke.It’s absolutely in your power to decide what is important about this season, and only focus on those things. Society around you needs not to dictate your own thoughts and actions. As long as your aims are to create a more positive wellbeing for yourself and/or those close to you, then you can choose to celebrate (or not) this holiday whichever way you see fit.

It’s absolutely in your power to decide what is important about this season, and only focus on those things. Society around you needs not to dictate your own thoughts and actions. As long as your aims are to create a more positive wellbeing for yourself and/or those close to you, then you can choose to celebrate (or not) this holiday whichever way you see fit.