Time for yourself is time for everyone

Wow — December is moving along quick, isn’t it? Before we know it it’ll be Christmas Day where most people finally take a break from their normal routine and responsibilities. One single day where everyone just stops, and takes time for themselves and each other.

But why do we only seem to really take that time on that one day of the year? (or if you’re lucky, a holiday once a year) One of the most significant tools I have used in recent years to better elevate my own wellbeing is a simple one: taking time for myself.

By ensuring I take time for myself, I have been able to make sense of my own feelings and emotions better and more eloquently respond to the pressures and responsibilities that come my way with a simple word, “No”.

I know how it sounds, it sounds really ‘selfish’. One of those words that no one likes to be identified as. I prefer to redefine the word — until I find a better one — to simply mean taking time for myself before I give my time to others.By reframing the definition, I can happily call myself and allow others to call me ‘selfish’. I often feel my conscience asking me to check myself, that perhaps sometimes I am putting my own wellbeing before anyone else’s, perhaps too much. But I’d argue that this is not only the best thing you can do for

By reframing the definition, I can happily call myself and allow others to call me ‘selfish’. I often feel my conscience asking me to check myself, that perhaps sometimes I am putting my own wellbeing before anyone else’s, perhaps too much. But I’d argue that this is not only the best thing you can do for yourself, but is the best thing you can do for everyone around you.By searching inwardly, rather than outwardly, for the answers to understanding your own mental state and taking

By searching inwardly, rather than outwardly, for the answers to understanding your own mental state and taking time to care for your body you build a better foundation of self. With that better self, you then have something much more valuable as well as energised to offer to the world.Various people in my life are stretched, and I see it around me all the time. Being stretched doesn’t work for me, as it doesn’t leave any time to repair or improve myself. The world is full of personalities and many of which will be always asking for your guidance, your help, your expertise. Making worthwhile contributions to the people and the world around you is absolutely an important pillar in your own wellbeing, but it always comes after the direct care of self.

Various people in my life are stretched, and I see it around me all the time. Being stretched doesn’t work for me, as it doesn’t leave any time to repair or improve myself. The world is full of personalities and many of which will be always asking for your guidance, your help, your expertise. Making worthwhile contributions to the people and the world around you is absolutely an important pillar in your own wellbeing, but it always comes after the direct care of self.

So what does that look like? It’s different for everyone. Some people are introverts and need to be alone to recharge, and some are extroverts who need the feedback of others to recharge and the variants in between. Some people feel energised from being out in nature — most in fact, try it — and some need to just have a hot bath tub.There’s no specific answers to what is right for everyone other than evolutionary, so spending the time to discover your sense of self and

There’s no specific answers to what is right for everyone other than evolutionary, so spending the time to discover your sense of self and then in addition the time to build upon it means that you become a better version of yourself that has the calm mind, fit body, and energy to bring contributions to those around you.